Two years ago I got acquainted with Lori McKenna, a rising singer-songwriter in the folk and country music scene. My husband, one of my best gal pals, and I bought tickets for Sundance Mountain Resort’s summer Bluebird Café Songwriter Series, where they feature the songwriters behind some of the biggest hits.
I love a good story, but I love even more knowing where it came from. When I learned the Grammy award-winning song Girl Crush was co-written by a middle-aged mother of five, I was intrigued and in love. I love unexpected people doing the unexpected.
McKenna went on to share stories of how songs come to her while carpooling kids to soccer, school, doctors’ appointments and everything in between. She writes at her dining room table. And when she needs a boost of gal-pal power, she hops a plane from her Boston suburban home for Nashville to co-write with 2 other women songwriters. All of them in their midlife, having fun and shaking up the country music scene.
Then, this past week, I was watching CBS’s Sunday Morning – yes, I watch the morning news show that’s written for my parent’s generation – and lo and behold, they did a feature of Lori McKenna. And, once again, my girl-crush on her was fueled with admiration, inspiration and a real motivation for my own pursuits. Being able to see myself in others whom I see paving a cool path in life and making it all work fuels me.
Ironically the song Girl Crush, is a sad story about the “other woman.” It’s not at all what moves me about the song. What moves me is the person who wrote the song, her life, and how she is living it to its fullest. I’ve got a different kind of girl crush that speaks to the admiration and appreciation for the women in my life that are my tribe. They get me. They listen. They challenge me, and laugh at and with me when the moment calls for it.
On this Valentine’s Day, I want to celebrate the notion of those in our lives that we have my kind of “girl crush” on. Women need women. We need friendship, emotional support, and most of all, we need trusted peeps that help us through the highs and lows of life.
Consider your girl crushes, send them a quick email, text or pick up the phone, and thank them. Tell them you love them, and honor them on this day of hearts. Doing so will bring as much warmth to you as it will to them.
Happy Galentine’s Day!
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